Thanksgiving Thoughts

Happy Thanksgiving to all of my American friends! And to all of my international friends, please go make yourself some stuffing and potatoes and join in on the celebration 🙂

So far this morning, I have been running around like a mad woman trying to get everything prepped and ready for the gang to get here. The turkey is roasting away, the potatoes are peeled, the appetizers are set, the desserts are made, and I finally put some presentable clothes on. Now, it is time to count my blessings.

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Thanksgiving is the time to give thanks. So many times throughout the year, I [and many other people] forget how fortunate they really are. Here are some things I am thankful for…

1. My family: They are truly amazing. They are the most supportive, nonjudgmental, funny, crazy, silly, and loving humans I know. Maybe I am biased…but they are great! Love you guys!

2. Living in Southern California: Seriously though, this place is paradise. Today it is 90 degrees. In the middle of November. While I have never been able to experience a white Christmas, or the changing of the leaves in the Fall, I truly do love the sunshine. The environmentalist in me is kind of worried about this kind of weather though. Global climate change!!!!!

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3.Completing my bachelors degree in May: I have one more semester until I am finished with my bachelors degree. Now I have to find a job…Lets pray for that to happen very soon!

4. Health: Health is SO important. We take for granted the everyday things we are able to get done. This past week, my mom has been hit with a serious case of vertigo for the first time ever. It has been awful and really taken a toll on her. It made me realize how important taking care of ourselves really is!

5. Internet shopping: I am NOT happy about all of the stores opening on Thanksgiving day. I think its sad actually and do not want to participate. Although, I am a crazy Black Friday shopper. I usually don’t even buy anything, but I love to be out with the masses! Its so exciting! This year though, I really wanted to buy a DSLR camera, and Best Buy had a crazy sale on one. It turned out that they offered the same sale online, so I woke up early in the middle of the night and got it ordered. Mission accomplished!

6. You! Anyone who reads my blog means so much to me! I am a new blogger and just getting a start, so anyone who cares to listen makes my hearts smile! Thanks so much. It means more than you could imagine.

There are so many other things that I am thankful for, that I could be typing for days on end.

Happy Thanksgiving or Thursday everyone. Remember to reflect on everything you are thankful for.

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Is it half empty or half full?

What is it about moms and their ability to teach you lessons and give you advice without even meaning to? Is this just some super power that you automatically get when you become a mom? Or is there some pill you have to take or something? Somebody please let me know, because if/when I ever become a mom, I will be seriously lacking in the Super Woman category…..

 

Anyways, lets have story time first.

The other night, I was sitting on the couch with papers and notes scattered everywhere while I was frantically trying to study for economics and trying to keep my head from spinning in circles while I was waiting for dinner to cook. My mom was sitting on the couch flipping through a Tiffany and Co. magazine while watching TV. Why we were sent a Tiffany magazine is beyond me, but we will roll with it.

After a few minutes of flipping through, she started dying laughing. Like the uncontrollable I cannot even talk and I am going to pee in my pants laughter. Over a Tiffany magazine. I was so confused…and pretty irritated as well because I was getting distracted. After she finally contained herself and could get some words out, she let me know that they were selling and ice bucket for $5000. I still didn’t get it. Ya, so??

She found it hysterical that someone would purchase an ice bucket for $5000, when we find it crazy to buy a $200 bracelet. My ice bucket is from Target in case you were wondering, and it was probably less than $10. We’re super fancy down here.

Her laughter and humor taught me a lesson though. Life is all about perspective. I don’t even bother looking at magazines like that, because I end up getting mad at myself. I question why I am not successful or rich enough to be able to purchase things like that? I feel inadequate and inferior to other people and I am constantly comparing myself to others. Her, she just laughs it off.

After my frustration of her disturbing me, I too started laughing. If I was super rich, I sure wouldn’t spend it on little things like an ice bucket. Well maybe I would. Im not uber wealthy so I can’t really speak. Maybe one day….. 🙂

And then, because one lesson is never enough, she taught me something else the next night.

After coming home from dinner, I asked my mom how it was and what she ordered. She explained to me that she basically ate all vegetables for dinner, while also smirking and trying not to laugh. My mom would never eat all vegetables when going out to dinner. While she isn’t unhealthy in any way, she does love her sweets, and potato chips.

I wasn’t catching on quickly, so she further explained what she meant.

She ate an order of onion strings (fried onions) followed by a wedge salad (topped with bacon and blue cheese dressing) finished with a baked potato (stuffed with cheese and butter) and a few bites of steak. All vegetables?

While this probably wasn’t the healthiest meal, there was something to be learned. I am constantly worried about what I am eating and trying to eat well at all times. I have to get my 5 servings of fruits/vegetables in a day, I try not to eat too much sugar, etc. My diet is far from perfect, let me say, and I LOVE sugar, but I constantly worry about it. My mom, on the other hand, lets things go most times. She enjoys her life and doesn’t stress about the little things. She eats well most of the time, but allows herself to let loose occasionally. That is definitely something I could work on. Life is about perspective. View things with optimism and your life will be that much better.

We followed up that conversation with a debate about potatoes. Are they considered a starch or a vegetable?

Moms. What would we do without them? 🙂

Are you an optimist or pessimist?

 

WIAW- Just because I should

There are certain foods that you eat because they taste good–they make your heart happy, your taste buds dance, and your happiness soar. Like pizza, brownies, frozen yogurt, etc.

Then there are foods you eat because they are good for your body. They make your tummy happy, your hair sparkle, your nails strong, your eyes bright, etc.

And, there are foods that you think you should eat. Foods that you don’t particularly like. Foods that might be, so called healthy, but ones that also make you want to gag and are really hard for you to get down. But you SHOULD be eating them, so you have to like them right?. Wrong.

After I started to mend my relationship with food, I started researching powerhouse foods and foods that everyone should be eating for optimal health. I tried to include most of them in my diet, no matter how much or how little I liked them.

This did not help mend my food relationship. I am all for trying new things and incorporating variety into ones diet, but I do not think it is necessary to eat foods you don’t necessarily like just because somebody said they will make you a superhuman.

For example, I REALLY want to like sweet potatoes. They are all the rage in the blogging world, and have tons of nutrients that white potatoes don’t. But…I don’t like them. I have tried them roasted, mashed, as fries, sweet, savory, and everything in between. They don’t do anything for my taste buds, and quite honestly are very hard for me to get down. The same goes for butternut squash. Nope. Not happening over here. Pumpkin on the other hand is something I LOVEEEE. So, instead of forcing myself to eat something that doesn’t make me happy or satisfied, I replace with something that has somewhat of the same nutritional value to it.

Blueberries are another food I cannot stand to eat….plain. I solve this problem by incorporating them into other foods. Muffins, pancakes, waffles, smoothies, etc. There is just something about the texture of a fresh blueberry that makes me irk inside. Because I know they have so many health benefits, I try to incorporate them. Just in other ways.

Fish is also supposed to be a superfood that all experts say you need. Since I don’t eat fish, I used to think I would just miss out on those nutrients. Thats not true. Nuts and seeds have omegas just like fish does as well as healthy oils and avocados.

Instead of eating a food because the trend (blogging world, celebrities, magazines, etc.) tell you to follow, eat based on what you feel like, while also keeping in mind what makes your body happy as well. Of course, it might be nice to eat pizza and ice cream for every meal, but that wouldn’t make our stomachs all that happy, even though our taste buds might think it was okay.

There are tons of different ways to get nutrients. One food is not the end all be all. If you find one thing doesn’t really do it for you, try something else with similar benefits. Listen to your body instead of everyone else.

Have a great rest of the day.

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I used to want to be…

Every other second I change my mind of what I want to do or be. Most of the time I chose things for superficial reasons. That mentality is all changing now.

Throughout my life I have gone through spurts of what I wanted to do with my life. Most of the time though, I didn’t really ask myself what I wanted. I did what I thought would make OTHERS happy, or what was right. Sometimes though, you need to check in with yourself and see what is going to make YOU happy.

1. I used to want to be a veterinarian….because my dad picked that profession out for me before I was even born. We had a running joke that I was going to be a vet while my sister was going to be a dentist. I took it very seriously for many years and was afraid to upset him by not following that path. As I got older though, I realized blood and needles weren’t for me. I like dogs and animals…without seeing them in pain.

2. I used to want to be a financial planner…because they make a lot of money. I thought I would like finance because I am a numbers person. And then I took a finance class…I changed my mind. The hours they work are not ideal.

3. I used to want to be a runner…because they always seem really skinny and burn a lot of calories. All of the cross country girls could eat whatever they wanted. Or so I thought.

4. I used to want to be a swimmer…because it was supposedly the best workout ever. And they burn a lot of calories.

5. I used to want to be a celebrity… because people idolize them and they have oodles of money.

6. I used to want to be Kim Kardashian…and then I questioned my sanity.

But then, I reevaluated my life, and questioned what I really wanted in life. Life isn’t about material things and appearance.

Now I want…

1. To be happy…money does not buy happiness. Being skinny does not buy happiness. Doing things that make you feel good make you happy.

2. To be healthy…life is about moderation. Starving yourself is not healthy. Isolating yourself is not healthy.

3. To be successful… success comes to those with confidence. Confidence comes to those who like and are okay with themselves.

There was a time in my life where I did things that may not have been the best decisions. Starving myself to have complete control and “be skinny”, pursue careers to make sure I was rich, to things others wanted to make everyone else happy. But then, I realized that for me to accomplish anything, I MYSELF needed to be happy. You have to take care of YOU.

Next time you worry about pleasing others or pursuing something materialistic or superficial, take a step back. Happiness and healthiness come from the inside out. Not the outside in.

Happy Sunday!

All You Need Is A Little Staycation

Happy Labor Day weekend!

Labor Day signals the end of summer. Not too happy about that. I start school again on Tuesday, and have a pretty tight schedule this semester. It is going to be a lot of work! But, the sooner I start, the sooner I am done right? Ya, that’s what I keep telling myself.

I interned this entire summer at an insurance company, which left little time for fun or anything else. Most of my friends and classmates spent the summer traveling to exotic places and frolicking at the beach, while I spent my time in an office. For awhile, I sat and sulked and pitied myself for missing out on fun and wasting my life away, but then I switched my perspective.

Instead of pitying myself, I looked at the positive. I was getting valuable experience in a corporation and making some decent money for myself.

Attending a private school is sometime hard on me. Most of the kids are VERY wealthy and have more money than I could ever imagine. I am not one of those kids. I have to put everything into perspective though. I am VERY fortunate. I have everything I need and want. There are many others that have it WAY worse than I do. Just because I don’t get to go to Europe for months every summer or drive a Porsche, I am still fortunate. Taking a step back from everything is eye-opening. I have to remind myself that I have a lot to be thankful for!

Because I was busy this summer, and strapped for money, I never had a chance to go on a vacation. This wasn’t really a big deal, because I have not been anywhere in a few years, but my mom and I were looking for a quick getaway.

This is where the staycation comes in. Staycations are fabulous! They offer the benefits of going on vacation, but take less time and money. SCORE!

This weekend I went down to San Diego for a few days.

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It was gorgeous! The weather was perfect. It was about 85 degrees and the sun was shining bright. We spent the days lounging on the beach during the day, and then exploring the city at night.

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One of the days, we went to the Del Mar horse races and watched those. I usually attend those every year, which is always really fun.

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The horses amaze me, by how fast they run.

Overall, the vacation was just what I needed. A quick getaway that was very inexpensive but very relaxing. Instead of dwelling on the fact that I wasn’t able to go on an African safari or backpack Europe like some of my peers, I am thankful for the quick getaway I was able to get.

Staycations are all you need. Think of the positives of every situation and you will find yourself happier on a daily basis. Happy Labor Day!

Sometimes It’s Okay….

Sometimes it’s okay

1. To be upset: I try to be as close to perfect as I can ALL THE TIME! It is hard. It is exhausting. It isn’t real. I am a people pleaser and always put other people before myself. When someone is in pain, I am there to help. When someone needs help, I am right by their side. Sometimes though, I am the one that needs the help. Relationships with others (friends, family, spouses, etc.) are hard. You are not going to get along with everyone all the time. Sometimes, you are allowed to be upset with someone. Do not allow other people to take advantage of you.

I used to allow people to walk all over me. I was always there to help, but when I needed help, certain people turned away. They became mean and nasty. I allowed it to happen. I would not allow myself to become upset. I deemed myself unworthy, and deserving of their cruel treatment. That was not okay.

It is okay to accept your emotions. It isn’t okay to be taken advantage of. If you allow yourself to feel upset sometimes when it is valid to be upset, you don’t stuff your feelings down inside of you. You allow yourself to get your emotions out and move on quicker.

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Nothing is perfect. Allow yourself to accept the imperfections and move on.

2. To be afraid: Life is scary. There are many things that occur on a daily basis that are uncomfortable and not something we want to do.

After being underweight for SOOOO long, gaining weight was very scary. Every pound was a struggle and the world felt like it was ending. Now that I am at a healthy weight, the fear is different. I fear being overweight, eating too much, going too far. The fear is still there, yet I still manage to feed myself.

Fear is everywhere. I am starting my last year of college. I fear not being successful, not finding a good job, FAILING! I allow fear to consume my thoughts on some days. Fear is ok. What isn’t ok is allowing fear to take over. Being afraid is normal, but you have to conquer the fear. Do things you are afraid of until they are no longer scary. Push aside negative fearful thoughts and replace  them with rational thinking. Fear is only a feeling.

It is ALWAYS okay to be happy: I have not been truly happy in a long time. I did not allow myself to feel happiness for awhile because I didn’t think i deserved it. I was unworthy, undeserving, and worthless. These are all false. Everyone is worthy of happiness. I am a good person. Loyal, caring, hardworking. I allowed negativity to get the best of my thoughts, and positive ones became intrusive. It should be the opposite. I am learning to only accept the positive thoughts that bring me up. Things that bring me down are being pushed out. Happiness is deserved. Surround yourself with things that make you feel good, and happiness will no longer be a chore to achieve. It will be automatic.